Jason & Anja Irving’s Book
FIND YOUR ONE
How to Make Your Next Relationship Your Last
Are you tired of opening your heart, only to find yourself choosing the same wrong person again and again?
Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, nothing seems to work out, leaving you with broken promises, disappointment, and that quiet question, why does this keep happening to me?
What if there were a clear, grounded way to build trust, emotional safety, and real connection, so your next relationship could truly be your last?
After 28 years of working closely with individuals and couples, and witnessing thousands of relationship breakdowns, Anja and Jason have distilled what actually creates lasting love into a practical, honest framework.
This is not a book about playing games or learning clever strategies to keep someone interested. It goes deeper than that. It helps you understand why you are drawn to certain people, why familiar patterns repeat, and what needs to shift within you to create something different.
Inside, you will uncover the unconscious habits, emotional blind spots, and hidden dynamics that quietly shape your relationships. You will experience powerful moments of clarity that move you out of old cycles and into a more conscious way of loving.
This is an invitation to transform the way you love, to choose from self awareness rather than fear, and to build a relationship grounded in trust, respect, and emotional depth.
Not a quick fix. A lasting foundation.
About The Authors
Are you tired of giving your heart… only to end up in the same story with a different person?
Do you keep attracting the almost-right, the emotionally unavailable, or the ones who promise everything… and deliver very little?
And at some point, have you quietly wondered, is it them… or is it me?
What if the issue isn’t your standards, your effort, or your worth… but the unconscious patterns driving your choices?
After nearly three decades working with individuals and couples, and witnessing thousands of relationship breakdowns, Anja and Jason have uncovered a confronting truth, most people aren’t unlucky in love, they are repeating it.
Find Your One is not about tactics, rules, or learning how to “win” someone over.
It’s about understanding why you choose who you choose.
Why the same dynamics keep showing up.
And what needs to shift, within you, for something real to finally take hold.
Inside, you’ll uncover the hidden patterns, emotional blind spots, and internal wiring that quietly shape every relationship you enter. The kind of insights that can’t be unseen, and once you see them, everything changes.
This is where self-awareness replaces self-sabotage.
Where emotional maturity replaces emotional chaos.
Where connection is no longer something you chase, but something you consciously create.
This isn’t about finding the perfect person.
It’s about becoming the version of you who no longer settles for less than aligned, grounded, deeply connected love.
Not a quick fix.
A complete shift in how you love.